Sunday, January 18, 2015


Whangamumu Beach, Bay of Islands, New Zealand

The fear of death is perhaps our greatest fear.  It affects everything we do and say.  It follows us like a shadow.

We may die in the next five minutes or sixty years from now.  We have no idea when our death will occur.

How can we overcome the fear of death?

If we focus intensely on the idea that we could die in this very moment and keep our attention on that idea without judging it, it will lose its power.  We do not judge whether dying is good or bad, or what happens to us when we die.  We allow the "isness" of it. and surrender to it.

Let's say, for example, that we do not have food and are starving to death.  Will the fear and anxiety we experience help us find something to eat?  If we have terminal cancer, will our anxiety and terror about dying help us find a cure?

Since we have a choice, isn't it better to die with equanimity?

None of us know what happens to us when we die.  However, it is certain that we will find peace.  Let's look death squarely in the face and find the peace that we know will be there when we pass over.

Let's become comfortable with death.

1 comment:

Molly said...

Thoughtfully considered my dear old friend. I agree with you and feel that I myself learned that lesson during my cancer journey. All that being said, it is impossible to find that same sense of acceptance and peace while watching our loved ones slip away.